How Do You Stay Sane? - CrimeSpace2024-03-28T13:26:41Zhttp://crimespace.ning.com/forum/topics/537324:Topic:146908?commentId=537324%3AComment%3A147869&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI try to act sane too. but th…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-30:537324:Comment:1489162008-06-30T19:53:14.074Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
I try to act sane too. but they always find out! especially when the facade slips! maybe it's an unanticipated growl or something!<br />
seriously, that does sound very sane to me, Paul<br />
thanks for that! very measured, very coherent!<br />
maybe i'll learn?!
I try to act sane too. but they always find out! especially when the facade slips! maybe it's an unanticipated growl or something!<br />
seriously, that does sound very sane to me, Paul<br />
thanks for that! very measured, very coherent!<br />
maybe i'll learn?! I try to think in terms of sc…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-30:537324:Comment:1489092008-06-30T19:29:44.538ZPaul McGoranhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PaulMcGoran
I try to think in terms of scenes and words when I write. So, when I'm going for a deadline, I want to do about 1500 words a day. Otherwise, 500 words is good for me. Sometimes that means eight hours, like you say, but I tend to keep it under four hours. Otherwise, I wind up with no life. By the way, I can't sustain the 1500 word pace for any more than a month. That probably has a lot to do with my NaNoWriMo training. For the last three years, I have done 50,000 words in November. Then I take a…
I try to think in terms of scenes and words when I write. So, when I'm going for a deadline, I want to do about 1500 words a day. Otherwise, 500 words is good for me. Sometimes that means eight hours, like you say, but I tend to keep it under four hours. Otherwise, I wind up with no life. By the way, I can't sustain the 1500 word pace for any more than a month. That probably has a lot to do with my NaNoWriMo training. For the last three years, I have done 50,000 words in November. Then I take a four week break and come back to it at a much slower pace. Bottom line - staying sane is not really an option. The best I can do is try to act sane for the sake of friends and family. you sound very busy!
great. Y…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-26:537324:Comment:1480502008-06-26T13:48:14.171Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
you sound very busy!<br />
great. You're okay. lucky about never being sick. I had my share.<br />
fruitcake first husband, ill mother I took care of for 12 years until she died--<br />
in short, I was only on my own for three years before I met my second husband!<br />
a lot of suffering before him, boy oh boy.<br />
I think it's great to have goals and to feel the best years are ahead. that is so positive!<br />
I feel that way too! but with me, I've been so down that it had to get better!<br />
keep writing for pleasure. what a good…
you sound very busy!<br />
great. You're okay. lucky about never being sick. I had my share.<br />
fruitcake first husband, ill mother I took care of for 12 years until she died--<br />
in short, I was only on my own for three years before I met my second husband!<br />
a lot of suffering before him, boy oh boy.<br />
I think it's great to have goals and to feel the best years are ahead. that is so positive!<br />
I feel that way too! but with me, I've been so down that it had to get better!<br />
keep writing for pleasure. what a good thing, Dan. why not?<br />
My husband laughs at me when I tell him if it wasn't for my book project, I'd be involved with amateur dramatics. I write good stage dialogue I'm told.<br />
it would be fun. i'll do it too, when I finished the damned thing!<br />
but from backstage. had a go on the stage--(not like the joke: one leaving in ten minutes stage coach)! i went to acting school and even auditioned for a show off broadway--it was fun, too. did some dancing also--nice respectable dancing with leotards and underwear and blouses!<br />
Had a friend in Cabaret on Broadway (dancer)--but I wouldn't have made that! Knew my limitations!<br />
anyway, the road we travel is full of turns and rocks sometimes. you stepped over yours, I tripped over mine and knocked some teeth out--might even had a concushion or two!<br />
but it's looking good now (for both of us)! as you say, people die--things could be so much worse! let's talk rural! me too. yor…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-26:537324:Comment:1480212008-06-26T06:13:45.681Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
let's talk rural! me too. yorkshire moors nearby and farmland next to our home. stick city! and me, from Manhattan!<br />
Retirement can be depressing. Goodness knows, I certainly think back to jobs I had--I usually do that when I'm dressed in what I'm dressed in and writing! I mean where's the New York kid, clicking along on her high heels running up Madison AVenue?<br />
so understand. one thing I wouldn't ever do was try to write if I felt down. you don't, do you?<br />
can you get involved in some social…
let's talk rural! me too. yorkshire moors nearby and farmland next to our home. stick city! and me, from Manhattan!<br />
Retirement can be depressing. Goodness knows, I certainly think back to jobs I had--I usually do that when I'm dressed in what I'm dressed in and writing! I mean where's the New York kid, clicking along on her high heels running up Madison AVenue?<br />
so understand. one thing I wouldn't ever do was try to write if I felt down. you don't, do you?<br />
can you get involved in some social thing? some organization--church related or not? political club? start a writer's group? , look up old murder cases--maybe in your State--see if you can write a non-fiction book? I'm serious. I would do that. I really would. or at least think about it. consider everything! and the one thing meant for you will show itself.<br />
I love writing dialogue! was with North West Playwrights here--and loved it. but it didn't feel that real, something to continue for years, you know?<br />
Look, 25 years ago, I was in a marriage that nearly killed me. it side tracked me (and afterwards) away from writing. so if I am gung ho now, I guess that's the reason.<br />
Your experience is the opposite! you've been there and so on. So certainly, your approach is different. so understandable!<br />
What do you enjoy doing? you're too intellingent and with your very active mind, you're feeling the inactivity--not good Dan. I get very down sometimes but at least I'm too busy now to think about it.<br />
but I still get down here and there. I feel the distance sometimes from America too much. maybe.<br />
just had an idea. we could start a group therapy session on here! although for me, all the discussions I put up are group therapy sessions!<br />
just realized that! whoah! the one thing Barb and I woul…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-26:537324:Comment:1480172008-06-26T05:52:09.358Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
the one thing Barb and I wouldn't agree on is the guy thing!<br />
aside from that, she was some cool lady, great actress.<br />
And that shot is from her in Double Indemnity btw. Where played the scheming, homicidal, femme fatale wife.<br />
And why do I like it so much I might hear people ask?<br />
answer: ;my first marriage!<br />
i should really put up my own i.d. it's just i like the whole page of magic, it sets my mood when I start writing.<br />
she did save all of Robert Taylor's love letters, they were married.<br />
and when…
the one thing Barb and I wouldn't agree on is the guy thing!<br />
aside from that, she was some cool lady, great actress.<br />
And that shot is from her in Double Indemnity btw. Where played the scheming, homicidal, femme fatale wife.<br />
And why do I like it so much I might hear people ask?<br />
answer: ;my first marriage!<br />
i should really put up my own i.d. it's just i like the whole page of magic, it sets my mood when I start writing.<br />
she did save all of Robert Taylor's love letters, they were married.<br />
and when they were destroyed in a house fire she took it pretty badly (not that long before she died).<br />
did you ever see Lady of Burlesque? she's a riot in that! love it too!
and thanks for t…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-25:537324:Comment:1479292008-06-25T22:06:41.080Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
love it too!<br />
and thanks for the compliments.<br />
Yes, very supportive husband. I wrote and worked for the past ten years, and when we moved my husband said, why don't you just focus on your writing. I've been doing that for more than a year now and i've made so much headway. although, i've only been on my present w.i.p. for the past three months.<br />
and did you hit the nail on the old proverbial! you bet I want to connect, but i really wanted to hear what others do. I've learned so much in the past…
love it too!<br />
and thanks for the compliments.<br />
Yes, very supportive husband. I wrote and worked for the past ten years, and when we moved my husband said, why don't you just focus on your writing. I've been doing that for more than a year now and i've made so much headway. although, i've only been on my present w.i.p. for the past three months.<br />
and did you hit the nail on the old proverbial! you bet I want to connect, but i really wanted to hear what others do. I've learned so much in the past year I've been on this site. Invaluable stuff really.<br />
no, not getting paid for anything right now.<br />
I did start working on a short story for publication btw. so i agree with you about a secondary project. just hope it doesn't turn out to be a primary project!<br />
I worked for 7 hours today-the adrenalin was shooting and I was flying.<br />
writing, editing and writing and editing!<br />
you see the reason I work so hard during the week now, is because all summer my husband drags me along to various commitments he has (which I don't like and resent)! hence, the feverish work cycle weekdays.<br />
thanks for your reply, Dan!<br />
I'll pay your assistant, but when will you next see me?! Love it. :)tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-25:537324:Comment:1479142008-06-25T20:25:27.446ZI. J. Parkerhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/Ingpark
Love it. :)
Love it. :) Wow Sue, thanks for sharing.…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-25:537324:Comment:1478862008-06-25T17:25:20.061Zcarole gillhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/PhyllisDietrichson
Wow Sue, thanks for sharing.<br />
It's no fun, I'm sure. And now widowed after so many years of marriage. I admire you. You've been through plenty, but have come out strong and that is wonderful but I'm sure it was far from easy.<br />
Yes, I think we all have to (me, especially) know the difference between quitting and pushing ourselves over the limit. I think that's a hugely important point.<br />
And probably the most valuable idea to come out of this entire discussion.<br />
Perfectionism without limits is…
Wow Sue, thanks for sharing.<br />
It's no fun, I'm sure. And now widowed after so many years of marriage. I admire you. You've been through plenty, but have come out strong and that is wonderful but I'm sure it was far from easy.<br />
Yes, I think we all have to (me, especially) know the difference between quitting and pushing ourselves over the limit. I think that's a hugely important point.<br />
And probably the most valuable idea to come out of this entire discussion.<br />
Perfectionism without limits is extremism without sense, something I'm certainly going to take on board!<br />
Thanks so much for your reply. I'm grateful. Come on Sue, my parents were…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-25:537324:Comment:1478772008-06-25T16:52:11.770ZTom Cookehttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/TomCooke
Come on Sue, my parents were both retired teachers. There is no way you could have survived a lifetime of teaching and remained sane.
Come on Sue, my parents were both retired teachers. There is no way you could have survived a lifetime of teaching and remained sane. I had a nervous breakdown whe…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2008-06-25:537324:Comment:1478692008-06-25T14:53:06.713ZSue Dawsonhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/SueDawson
I had a nervous breakdown when I was 17--no fun, and I do not recommend the experience. Now at 72, I am wiser and "saner." Seriously, when I took flying lessosns in my 30s, I had to get a letter attesting to my sanity. My psychiatrist of long ago actually remembered me. I had been a young college student taking 23 hours--way too many. Now widowed after nearly 35 years of marriage, I realize that those few months of my life made me a far better high school teacher than I would have been had I…
I had a nervous breakdown when I was 17--no fun, and I do not recommend the experience. Now at 72, I am wiser and "saner." Seriously, when I took flying lessosns in my 30s, I had to get a letter attesting to my sanity. My psychiatrist of long ago actually remembered me. I had been a young college student taking 23 hours--way too many. Now widowed after nearly 35 years of marriage, I realize that those few months of my life made me a far better high school teacher than I would have been had I not experienced them. I had to learn to pace myself, a valuable trait to have. I still am no quitter, however, just not the perfectionist I was in my teens.