Husbands, wives and DIY - CrimeSpace2024-03-28T16:18:00Zhttp://crimespace.ning.com/forum/topics/537324:Topic:43460?commentId=537324%3AComment%3A43606&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI've skimmed this thread, but…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-07-23:537324:Comment:570152007-07-23T20:02:13.254ZNikkihttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/Nkk1969
I've skimmed this thread, but haven't seen anyone talking about this technique. I call it the That's Okay, I'll Do It. My husband is Very Handy. If it's broken, he has the ability to fix it. Now the inclination...that's another story. Because I hate people who nag (of any gender), I don't want to be the nagging wife. I remind my husband only twice about anything that needs to be done. If said thing is not fixed/done in a reasonable amount of time, I tear into it myself.<br />
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A perfect example of…
I've skimmed this thread, but haven't seen anyone talking about this technique. I call it the That's Okay, I'll Do It. My husband is Very Handy. If it's broken, he has the ability to fix it. Now the inclination...that's another story. Because I hate people who nag (of any gender), I don't want to be the nagging wife. I remind my husband only twice about anything that needs to be done. If said thing is not fixed/done in a reasonable amount of time, I tear into it myself.<br />
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A perfect example of this is a situation involving our car. Years ago, back when cars still has carburators, my car tended to die at red lights. Hubby said, "I need to rebuild the carburator. As soon as I get time, I'll do it." The car kept dying at lights and I kept getting more and more upset. Hubby was busy, said he'd get to it, blah, blah, blah. When I'd finally had all I could take, I didn't rant, or cause a fuss, I just pulled up to the garage and removed the air filter. Hubby came out to ask what I was doing and I told him I was taking the carburator off so I could take it to get it rebuilt. The car ran like a dream the next day.<br />
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Moral of the story: Threaten to DIY and his Man Pride will prevent you having to do any actual work. Either that, or you'll learn some interesting new skills. Both ways work for me. Damn, I was tricked. When I s…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-07-22:537324:Comment:567872007-07-22T23:15:44.415ZJohnny Ostentatioushttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/JohnnyOstentatious
Damn, I was tricked. When I saw that headline with DIY in it, I thought it had to do with running your own publishing outfit. I don't need to worry fixing shit around the homestead. I rent, baby!
Damn, I was tricked. When I saw that headline with DIY in it, I thought it had to do with running your own publishing outfit. I don't need to worry fixing shit around the homestead. I rent, baby! I married a carpenter. If any…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-07-22:537324:Comment:566722007-07-22T16:38:59.982ZLilohttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/lostinlimaohio
I married a carpenter. If anything is going to get done around this house... I'm going to be doing it. I'm sure if I was willing to wait a few years, he'd do things... but I just don't see the need to.<br />
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I actually find DIY projects very enjoyable, and honestly think that along with that girlie class in high school where they teach 17 year olds how to cook and sew, they ought to teach simple things like fixing a flat tire, remodeling a kitchen and electrical wiring.<br />
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(I can bake a perfect New…
I married a carpenter. If anything is going to get done around this house... I'm going to be doing it. I'm sure if I was willing to wait a few years, he'd do things... but I just don't see the need to.<br />
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I actually find DIY projects very enjoyable, and honestly think that along with that girlie class in high school where they teach 17 year olds how to cook and sew, they ought to teach simple things like fixing a flat tire, remodeling a kitchen and electrical wiring.<br />
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(I can bake a perfect New York cheese cake, change the oil on my car, and use a skill saw... how sexy is that?) Oh, so you didn't go fix his…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-29:537324:Comment:447552007-05-29T07:49:20.116ZVincent Holland-Keenhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/fiskerton
Oh, so you didn't go fix his neighbour's computer then? Shame, 'cos my toilet needs a clean and I've got a A$5 note needing to be spent ;)
Oh, so you didn't go fix his neighbour's computer then? Shame, 'cos my toilet needs a clean and I've got a A$5 note needing to be spent ;) What's even better is when yo…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-29:537324:Comment:447142007-05-29T01:38:08.099ZDaniel Hatadihttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/danielhatadi
What's even better is when your dad rings you to get computer help for his next-door neighbour. And he's willing to pay. I guess it would be fine if that's what I did for a living, but offering to pay me to come and fix your computer is like hiring me as your toilet cleaner. I just don't want to do it, even if the money's good.<br />
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Umm, yeah. I have issues. :)
What's even better is when your dad rings you to get computer help for his next-door neighbour. And he's willing to pay. I guess it would be fine if that's what I did for a living, but offering to pay me to come and fix your computer is like hiring me as your toilet cleaner. I just don't want to do it, even if the money's good.<br />
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Umm, yeah. I have issues. :) DIY - or Do It Yourself - is…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-28:537324:Comment:446592007-05-28T21:36:52.179ZVincent Holland-Keenhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/fiskerton
DIY - or Do It Yourself - is rarely applied to the crime genre, but when it is, it's usually within the context of an aggrieved wife shooting her husband when the hired hitman turns out to be a two-bit bum with a gun, but no idea of where to aim it.<br />
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Cache 22 is sometimes known as a typographical error, but more often as the infamous munitions stockpile where those alleged 'weapons of mass destruction' were found. They were found by one Irving Spratz, who had been virulently opposed to the Iraq…
DIY - or Do It Yourself - is rarely applied to the crime genre, but when it is, it's usually within the context of an aggrieved wife shooting her husband when the hired hitman turns out to be a two-bit bum with a gun, but no idea of where to aim it.<br />
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Cache 22 is sometimes known as a typographical error, but more often as the infamous munitions stockpile where those alleged 'weapons of mass destruction' were found. They were found by one Irving Spratz, who had been virulently opposed to the Iraq war, but was now faced with the much sought for 'smoking gun'. Should he inform the authorities or keep quiet? His dilemma is sometimes known as Cache 22 - a dilemma exascerbated by the fact Cache 22 was his back yard in Chepstowe, Wales. How exactly do you explain why you have three hundred chemical warfare barrels and eighteen adapted scud missiles stacked up against your shed?<br />
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The legally bound thing actually relates to this fantasy I have about Ally McBeal, some handcuffs and a rubber bikini. It has nothing to do with this discussion. What's a DIY? I am not famili…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-28:537324:Comment:446442007-05-28T19:31:12.740ZNewt Lovehttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/newtlove
What's a DIY? I am not familiar with this acronym in crime literature. Is it like a DWI, now known as a DUI?<br />
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What's a cache 22? Is it like a Catch 22? The latter term was derived from the "damned if you do, damned if you don't" circumstances found in the novel Catch-22 by Joseph Heller, that was made into a film in 1970. It's log-line is: A man is trying desperately to be certified insane during World War II, so he can stop flying missions.<br />
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When you ask "legally bound" are you seeking legal…
What's a DIY? I am not familiar with this acronym in crime literature. Is it like a DWI, now known as a DUI?<br />
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What's a cache 22? Is it like a Catch 22? The latter term was derived from the "damned if you do, damned if you don't" circumstances found in the novel Catch-22 by Joseph Heller, that was made into a film in 1970. It's log-line is: A man is trying desperately to be certified insane during World War II, so he can stop flying missions.<br />
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When you ask "legally bound" are you seeking legal advice for (your home) Great Britain, because I live in the USA, where domestic law varies from state to state, as directed by our Federalist-styled Constitution. Donna, honey, tell me you wer…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-26:537324:Comment:441492007-05-26T20:38:13.101ZLC Fraserhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/Bunniff2
Donna, honey, tell me you weren't on the ladder in high heels? Cuz that would explain a lot.
Donna, honey, tell me you weren't on the ladder in high heels? Cuz that would explain a lot. To be honest, one of the reas…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-26:537324:Comment:440682007-05-26T10:17:15.554ZVincent Holland-Keenhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/fiskerton
To be honest, one of the reasons I've always rented my accommodation is because I don't have to do DIY. If anything breaks, the landlord has to get it fixed and when some decorators came to my flat not so long ago, it was at the landlord's behest. I didn't even notice the black streaks rising up the walls from the heaters until I had to move the furniture prior to their painting. So, yes, clearly I do need to make any potential fiancée clear that I'm happy for other people to do the DIY.<br />
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To be honest, one of the reasons I've always rented my accommodation is because I don't have to do DIY. If anything breaks, the landlord has to get it fixed and when some decorators came to my flat not so long ago, it was at the landlord's behest. I didn't even notice the black streaks rising up the walls from the heaters until I had to move the furniture prior to their painting. So, yes, clearly I do need to make any potential fiancée clear that I'm happy for other people to do the DIY.<br />
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That said, my Dad is actually good at DIY. He's built car-ports, re-plumbed kitchens, insulated every wall in his house with foam cladding and covered them with pine wood planks and all with a very professional finish (it's just computers he's not so adept with). While in theory I might have inherited those skills, I also can't help but remember the time when the only toilet in our house had been dismantled to the point where flushing could only be achieving by filling a jug with water and emptying it at speed into the cistern, sometimes several times. It stayed that way for at least six months. Never do DIY. Admitting you h…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-05-26:537324:Comment:440512007-05-26T06:52:57.981ZTom Cainhttp://crimespace.ning.com/profile/tomcain
Never do DIY. Admitting you have the slightest practical competence about the house is a fatal mistake and will lead to years, even decades of wasted weekends and holidays. There's a one-word answer to this problem: tradespeople. They're business is making stuff, fixing stuff and building stuff - let them get on with it, while you get on with whatever it is you're good at. Plus, it makes financial sense. In the time it would take me to try a job around the house, screw it up, try again, make it…
Never do DIY. Admitting you have the slightest practical competence about the house is a fatal mistake and will lead to years, even decades of wasted weekends and holidays. There's a one-word answer to this problem: tradespeople. They're business is making stuff, fixing stuff and building stuff - let them get on with it, while you get on with whatever it is you're good at. Plus, it makes financial sense. In the time it would take me to try a job around the house, screw it up, try again, make it even worse than before and finally admit defeat, I can earn enough money to pay for someone to come in and do it properly. If you're partne doesn't understand that simple proposition, don't get anywhere near a wedding, because she'll make your life a misery if you do!