Research: Misrepresenting Yourself - CrimeSpace2024-03-28T22:13:48Zhttps://crimespace.ning.com/forum/topics/537324:Topic:59413?commentId=537324%3AComment%3A60048&feed=yes&xn_auth=noI hate to be the lone voice o…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-16:537324:Comment:638082007-08-16T01:05:18.942ZBethany K. Warnerhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/bkwarner
I hate to be the lone voice of dissent here... but, as a journalist doing this for a story would/could get me fired. Yes, journalists of old used to do things like call up and say they were the coroner, but anymore... it's far, far better to be on the up-and-up.<br />
I guess my gut feeling is instead of getting on dating sites, why don't you interview people who have used the sites? There are scads of them, I'm sure.
I hate to be the lone voice of dissent here... but, as a journalist doing this for a story would/could get me fired. Yes, journalists of old used to do things like call up and say they were the coroner, but anymore... it's far, far better to be on the up-and-up.<br />
I guess my gut feeling is instead of getting on dating sites, why don't you interview people who have used the sites? There are scads of them, I'm sure. I can't answer about research…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-15:537324:Comment:637372007-08-15T21:22:24.823ZCyndi Martinhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/CyndiM
I can't answer about research as I'm not a writer, but I don't think there is anything wrong with you doing it. I actually made my first dating profile just because I had a friend who I know had one and I wanted to find him and kid him about it. Backfired on me, as it turns out that he had a thing for me and knew I was playing and was kind of hurt but that's another topic. Bottom line, it's ethical in my opinion. Anyone who is looking for someone on those sites knows that there is no guarantee.…
I can't answer about research as I'm not a writer, but I don't think there is anything wrong with you doing it. I actually made my first dating profile just because I had a friend who I know had one and I wanted to find him and kid him about it. Backfired on me, as it turns out that he had a thing for me and knew I was playing and was kind of hurt but that's another topic. Bottom line, it's ethical in my opinion. Anyone who is looking for someone on those sites knows that there is no guarantee. They should also expect that not everything is accurate. I always figure their income is at least one classification down from what it says. I would do it if I needed to research. Use this picture! That'll get some kind of responses! A friend of mine did it for r…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-15:537324:Comment:635742007-08-15T08:43:09.703ZLouisa Christyhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/CopperTale
A friend of mine did it for research. She entered all the info the site asked and put in her character's info. They sent back a long list of things which my friend then used to develop her character further. She still gets offers for her heroine. She didn't even post a picture. Said she was shy. lol
A friend of mine did it for research. She entered all the info the site asked and put in her character's info. They sent back a long list of things which my friend then used to develop her character further. She still gets offers for her heroine. She didn't even post a picture. Said she was shy. lol Oh Please!
Misrepresenting y…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-13:537324:Comment:630042007-08-13T16:49:19.421ZMichael C. Jacobshttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/Griftwriter
Oh Please!<br />
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Misrepresenting yourself... on a DATING SITE? Have you seen how many of us click "Average" or "A couple extra pounds" Have you never met someone for coffee to discover her photo was from when she was attending college, not teaching at one?<br />
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Lying about yourself on a dating site may be unethical, but it's nearly universal.
Oh Please!<br />
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Misrepresenting yourself... on a DATING SITE? Have you seen how many of us click "Average" or "A couple extra pounds" Have you never met someone for coffee to discover her photo was from when she was attending college, not teaching at one?<br />
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Lying about yourself on a dating site may be unethical, but it's nearly universal. As long as you can write "no…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-05:537324:Comment:606022007-08-05T23:02:27.054ZNeil Plakcyhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/neilplakcy
As long as you can write "no dates were harmed during the writing of this book," I think you'll be fine. In my experience, some eight & nine years ago, most people on dating sites are misrepresenting themselves in some way (they're married, or shorter, heavier, or less endowed than they claim), so I don't think you'd be significantly harming someone who answers your ad.
As long as you can write "no dates were harmed during the writing of this book," I think you'll be fine. In my experience, some eight & nine years ago, most people on dating sites are misrepresenting themselves in some way (they're married, or shorter, heavier, or less endowed than they claim), so I don't think you'd be significantly harming someone who answers your ad. "Come on, I'd do Chow Yun Fat…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-03:537324:Comment:600482007-08-03T16:13:22.866ZStephen Blackmoorehttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/sblackmoore
"Come on, I'd do Chow Yun Fat in a Hong Kong minute!"<br />
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Who wouldn't?
"Come on, I'd do Chow Yun Fat in a Hong Kong minute!"<br />
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Who wouldn't? Ethics. Ethics. The word soun…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-03:537324:Comment:600462007-08-03T16:12:13.780ZStephen Blackmoorehttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/sblackmoore
Ethics. Ethics. The word sounds familiar, but... no, I'm drawin' a blank here.<br />
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You've just created an ID. You're not going out and sleeping with random women you meet online telling them your name is Race Savageblood, Professional Gator Tamer. I don't think you've crossed any lines at this point. You're not leading anyone on.<br />
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Thing is, if you really want to know how the system works, this is only going to show you so much. Say you put up an ad, and someone does respond to it. Well, then what?…
Ethics. Ethics. The word sounds familiar, but... no, I'm drawin' a blank here.<br />
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You've just created an ID. You're not going out and sleeping with random women you meet online telling them your name is Race Savageblood, Professional Gator Tamer. I don't think you've crossed any lines at this point. You're not leading anyone on.<br />
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Thing is, if you really want to know how the system works, this is only going to show you so much. Say you put up an ad, and someone does respond to it. Well, then what? You either ignore it, say you're not interested, in which case your research ends there, or you go for it.<br />
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And <i>then</i> it's an ethical dilemma.<br />
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Or you could just contact some people at the site, or see if you know anyone who knows anyone who's used one and ask them. Not nearly as fun, but you don't run the risk of having your pet bunny cooked in a stew pot. I've "misrepresented" myself…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-01:537324:Comment:596232007-08-01T17:39:04.551ZSimon Woodhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/simonsubs
I've "misrepresented" myself for research purposes. I needed information from the FAA and my wife and I posed as feature writers for a magazine. It worked better than saying I was an author. I pretended to be ill eligible for an insurance policy when I was writing my 1st novel. I needed to see how the system worked from the inside. I never used what I learned to shame anyone or expose anyone. I think that's the key.<br />
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And as long as you don't break a few hearts, you should be okay. :-)
I've "misrepresented" myself for research purposes. I needed information from the FAA and my wife and I posed as feature writers for a magazine. It worked better than saying I was an author. I pretended to be ill eligible for an insurance policy when I was writing my 1st novel. I needed to see how the system worked from the inside. I never used what I learned to shame anyone or expose anyone. I think that's the key.<br />
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And as long as you don't break a few hearts, you should be okay. :-) yeah, I was always fascinated…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-01:537324:Comment:596032007-08-01T14:41:05.317ZAnne Frasierhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/annefrasier
yeah, I was always fascinated by the whole thing. i know it's not what you were thinking of doing, but your post reminded me of it.
yeah, I was always fascinated by the whole thing. i know it's not what you were thinking of doing, but your post reminded me of it. It isn't an ad but an ID set…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-01:537324:Comment:595372007-08-01T03:15:11.104ZSteve Allanhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/SteveAllan
It isn't an ad but an ID set up on one of the dating sites - but I guess that can be considered an ad. Either way, I'm interested in how people communitcate on such sites - and how much one can really learn from people that way - and how I can exploit that into a story.
It isn't an ad but an ID set up on one of the dating sites - but I guess that can be considered an ad. Either way, I'm interested in how people communitcate on such sites - and how much one can really learn from people that way - and how I can exploit that into a story.