Questions for you moms out there... - CrimeSpace2024-03-28T11:55:24Zhttps://crimespace.ning.com/forum/topics/537324:Topic:67995?commentId=537324%3AComment%3A68076&feed=yes&xn_auth=noKids are so different. As a t…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-09-01:537324:Comment:687922007-09-01T19:59:52.853ZLouisa Christyhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/CopperTale
Kids are so different. As a teacher and a mom, I have seen very precocious toddlers. Even more so nowadays than 20 years ago. Much of this is due to the rampant tv watching of inappropriate material for young age groups.<br />
The more involved the parents are, the different each child is. The first child tends to get more attention and thus seems to be more driven to accomplish much more.<br />
My son spoke in complete sentences at age two, spoke French, German, and English. He began reading at this age…
Kids are so different. As a teacher and a mom, I have seen very precocious toddlers. Even more so nowadays than 20 years ago. Much of this is due to the rampant tv watching of inappropriate material for young age groups.<br />
The more involved the parents are, the different each child is. The first child tends to get more attention and thus seems to be more driven to accomplish much more.<br />
My son spoke in complete sentences at age two, spoke French, German, and English. He began reading at this age as well. He potty trained himself at 1 1/2 and seemed a complete little genious. He's still pretty smart, BS in Mathematics.<br />
My daughter, on the other hand, didn't speak completely until age 3 1/2. She wanted him to be her speaker, but when she finally did speak, it was in complete sentences. She was not interested in langjuages, although she understood them perfectly. She stayed in her crib until she was 2 1/2 while her brother slept in a bed at 18 months. He stayed in his bed, she wandered alot, but always ended up back in her bed.<br />
In preschool classes I have had very precise speakers and mumblers to no talkers. 1/3 have wet their pants, won't take naps etc. Others I have had to keep busy because there brains want actvity. It just depends.<br />
My daughter still doesn't waste words. She prefers to put them to paper and write. My son, is vocal. Ah, such is life, we are all different. Margot, I couldn't agree with…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-31:537324:Comment:685532007-08-31T19:02:59.699ZChrista M. Millerhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/christammiller
Margot, I couldn't agree with you more about our job being to make them as independent and self-sufficient as possible. But the ways you reach that goal are quite varied. For instance, we do cosleep with both boys, and I wear the baby part of the day. But they couldn't possibly be more autonomous for their ages!<br />
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Some kids are naturally clingier than others. Some are clingy because they feel insecure. Others are "autonomous" but only because they've given up on their parents ever being there…
Margot, I couldn't agree with you more about our job being to make them as independent and self-sufficient as possible. But the ways you reach that goal are quite varied. For instance, we do cosleep with both boys, and I wear the baby part of the day. But they couldn't possibly be more autonomous for their ages!<br />
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Some kids are naturally clingier than others. Some are clingy because they feel insecure. Others are "autonomous" but only because they've given up on their parents ever being there for them. And some are naturally autonomous.<br />
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We all work with our kids' and our own personalities, as well as how we were raised. But the *methods* - as long as they provide the love and support each child needs - rarely have as much to do with children's happiness as the parenting that goes behind them. Mine was in my bed most of th…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:683502007-08-30T20:52:12.741ZCyndi Martinhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/CyndiM
Mine was in my bed most of the time. She was a good talker but she's 14 now so I can't remember exactly when she spoke in sentences. It was before she was two but all kids are different.
Mine was in my bed most of the time. She was a good talker but she's 14 now so I can't remember exactly when she spoke in sentences. It was before she was two but all kids are different. If she loses interest isn't t…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:683422007-08-30T20:27:00.812Zterry bowmanhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/foolesgold
If she loses interest isn't that the whole point? But that is a good observation. But I hope that any daughter of mine would be <b>all fascinated all the time.</b>
If she loses interest isn't that the whole point? But that is a good observation. But I hope that any daughter of mine would be <b>all fascinated all the time.</b> I am a bad mother. I don't re…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:683342007-08-30T20:14:34.914ZKaren E. Olsonhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/keolson
I am a bad mother. I don't remember. Maybe in a toddler bed at about 20 months? Speaking in sentences? Earlier, I think. Her first words were Chinese, so we don't know what they were, but her first English word was "cat" about three weeks after we brought her home. She was 14 months old.
I am a bad mother. I don't remember. Maybe in a toddler bed at about 20 months? Speaking in sentences? Earlier, I think. Her first words were Chinese, so we don't know what they were, but her first English word was "cat" about three weeks after we brought her home. She was 14 months old. I've always been very good at…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:682912007-08-30T19:35:10.411Zterry bowmanhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/foolesgold
I've always been very good at shmoozing my many nieces and nephews. They're all a little old for this exercise tho.
I've always been very good at shmoozing my many nieces and nephews. They're all a little old for this exercise tho. That made me laugh! Sorry. :)…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:682682007-08-30T17:35:14.982ZChrista M. Millerhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/christammiller
That made me laugh! Sorry. :) Good luck. And don't expect his/her attention span to be longer than a couple of minutes at most. As soon as the kid senses this is important to you, they're gone. You *might* be able to squeeze a few extra seconds out if you do the interview during their favorite activity.
That made me laugh! Sorry. :) Good luck. And don't expect his/her attention span to be longer than a couple of minutes at most. As soon as the kid senses this is important to you, they're gone. You *might* be able to squeeze a few extra seconds out if you do the interview during their favorite activity. Thanks my friends. This has a…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:682182007-08-30T13:09:01.049Zterry bowmanhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/foolesgold
Thanks my friends. This has all been very helpful. I've decided to interview my friend's two year-old and extrapolate...
Thanks my friends. This has all been very helpful. I've decided to interview my friend's two year-old and extrapolate... "So happy to see you, Daddy"…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:680762007-08-30T02:25:26.312ZChrista M. Millerhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/christammiller
"So happy to see you, Daddy" doesn't ring quite true for a 2yo. Often our older boy, at 4, still can't name why he feels a certain way. I usually have to give him choices: "Are you crying because you're sad, or because you're mad?" and then reasons: "Are you mad because I said no, or because your brother took your toy?" or whatever.<br />
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And Jude's right - he doesn't cry tears of joy. He might quiver and grin and say "I'm incited!" (Excited. LOL) He started with that when he was 3. As often, and I…
"So happy to see you, Daddy" doesn't ring quite true for a 2yo. Often our older boy, at 4, still can't name why he feels a certain way. I usually have to give him choices: "Are you crying because you're sad, or because you're mad?" and then reasons: "Are you mad because I said no, or because your brother took your toy?" or whatever.<br />
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And Jude's right - he doesn't cry tears of joy. He might quiver and grin and say "I'm incited!" (Excited. LOL) He started with that when he was 3. As often, and I think this is age-appropriate for Lily, he comes running over with a "DADDY!!!" You know, the classic kid thing.<br />
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This is a conversation I can see having with my 4yo but I'm not sure we would've had when he was 2. If I asked him what he wanted to do he might have said "Monkeys." As for "No I'm not...." - we're definitely talking like that now. Not sure what it would have been at 2.<br />
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Researching and writing conversation with a small child is tricky because it's not just a matter of full sentences - it's also a matter of cognition, higher ordered thinking, etc. At what ages is a child capable of thinking and then saying certain things? I wonder if you could find a book or two on the subject. If I remember correctly, two-…tag:crimespace.ning.com,2007-08-30:537324:Comment:680682007-08-30T01:37:36.524ZJude Hardinhttps://crimespace.ning.com/profile/festus
If I remember correctly, two-year-olds say, "I want..." a lot. They're all into themselves, and their responses might not have anything to do with a question that's asked. Also, their tears are never tears of joy.<br />
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I'm obviously not a mom, though, so what do I know? ;)
If I remember correctly, two-year-olds say, "I want..." a lot. They're all into themselves, and their responses might not have anything to do with a question that's asked. Also, their tears are never tears of joy.<br />
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I'm obviously not a mom, though, so what do I know? ;)